Thursday, January 31, 2013

How to Deal with People Who Make You Angry

Do you often feel irritated and annoyed by other people?

Do you find yourself blaming others for your frustrations?

Do you get angry about people who you think are rude, inconsiderate, incompetent, annoying, or indifferent?

There is a simple way of dealing with how you feel, and it's this...

Realize that your reaction is actually YOUR problem!

Yes, you've read right. The problem isn't 'them'; it's you... or, more accurately, the problem is how you react to them.

When you allow yourself to react adversely (even if you think it justified) to some external happening or event, your emotional response will cause problems for you.

Your adverse reaction will eat at you, consume you, create tension, potentially give you stomach pains or a headache, and drain you of energy and happiness.

Wouldn't you sooner give your thoughts and time to something more positive?

Whenever you feel the emotional hackles rising, focus on responding in a peaceful and calm way. Take a deep breath (or several). Count to 60. As you do so, let go of the need to respond or react in a negative emotional way.

Other people will always create testing situations. That's the way it is. The secret is responding in a way that is calm, compassionate, nurturing (for self & others), and accepting, so as to navigate through whatever challenge presents itself without adverse effects.

So, next time you point the finger at someone or feel angry because of something they say or do, change how you react. Breathe and count to 60. Let it go, and get on with the much more interesting and fulfilling things in your life.

Today's quote:

'Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself.' - Joseph Campbell

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