Thursday, September 30, 2010

Making the Most of Mistakes

Today, I'd like to share with you the value of making mistakes.

That's right ... getting things wrong really can prove beneficial.

You see, here's the reality:

Everyone makes mistakes.

If you're truly living and learning, you're likely to make mistakes on a frequent basis. It's all part of the human experience.

So, how do you go about making the most of your mistakes?

Well, getting it wrong provides the perfect opportunity to get it right.

Making mistakes offers a valuable learning experience, and that can be a fantastic positive ... assuming that you take those lessons on board.

You see growth is really a process of trial and error.

Consider the inventor Thomas Edison. Before making the first successful light bulb, he made thousands that didn't work. It's only by making mistakes, and learning from them, that he went on to succeed.

Every inventor, entrepreneur, explorer, or scientist ... every man and woman on the street ... in pursuit of success and achievement will, at some point, get it wrong.

So, remember, mistakes are really only valuable lessons and experiences. Learn from each one and turn those mistakes into successes.

Have a truly amazing day!

Oh, and remember this ...

"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one." - Elbert Hubbard

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Thursday, September 23, 2010

Way Leads to Way

If you're currently sat staring at your computer screen, thinking you're a failure, or feeling stuck because your life isn't working out like you wanted it to, then this post is for you!

Let's start with a quote:

"For every failure, there's an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour." - Mary Kay Ash

If life isn't going the way you wish; if you think you're the biggest failure in the world; if you don't have a clue which road to take, then find another way!

Easier said, you're probably thinking, but it really is easily done.

You see, way leads to way.

Try something else, take that other path, look for alternatives. Don't give up! Adopt a positive outlook, and go out there with belief, determination, and focused intention.

Life truly begins when you decide to get up off your weary backside.

Once you do this, you find solutions. You'll find you're no longer stuck. You find the life that you want.

And, remember, failure is really only experience. Those who don't fail at some point in their life haven't really lived.

So, take a deep breath, and find that detour.

You can create the life you want, and you can start making it happen today!

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Thursday, September 16, 2010

Live in the Now!

Where are you right this moment?

Well, if you're reading this, then hopefully you're tuned in and focused on today's self-development insight.

You see, I want to share with you the importance of living in the now. Chances are you live in the now most of the time, and that's great. In fact, it's really great because, in actual fact, many people spend a huge amount of their `now time' thinking about past events and future possibilities, and that's not so good at all.

Don't get me wrong, it's nice to reflect on good memories of days gone by and it's prudent to do a little visualized abundance planning for the future, if it's done so in moderation. What's not so clever is if you spend a good chunk of your days in the past or in some possible future, and lose what's really important: the `present' moment.

And, you know, the `present moment' is really all we have!

So, why do people spend so much time dwelling on past or future scenarios?

Well, when it comes down to it, there's really only one reason for spending far too much time day-dreaming about past times or possible future events, and it's because you're not totally happy in the present moment. After all, if you were happy now, you wouldn't have time to dwell too long because you'd be having such a good time, and why would you want to spoil that!

So, have a serious think about where your thoughts are as you go about your day. Consider what you need to change, if anything, so that you truly live - and ENJOY living - your life NOW!

And remember this:

"What lies behind us, and what lies
before us are small matters
compared to what lies within us."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have a fabulous day!

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Thursday, September 09, 2010

The Path of Mindfulness

Every day, we generate thousands of thoughts, as a result of information, ideas, emotions, sensations, experiences, stimulus, and memories.

These thoughts buzz around our heads, until they are processed, stored away, or discarded.

So, here are a few more thoughts for you to digest:

How mindful are you of your thoughts?

How often do you consider the clutter your mind processes?

How aware are you of the impact your thoughts have on your life's journey?

Think about it! Think about it, carefully!

You see, thoughts often run away with themselves, if you let them.

Thoughts can hold you back, if you let them.

Thoughts can limit your happiness and stop you from having a fulfilling and meaningful life, if you let them.

There is a saying, which puts thought in perspective, and it's this: `Whether you think you can or can't, in either case, you'll be right!'

It's a fabulous reminder how powerful thoughts are and why we should be mindful of them as we go about our day.

Consider what thoughts you're giving the most attention to. Are they positive, joyful, life-enhancing thoughts? Are you focused on creating wonderful experiences?

Remember, the choice is ALWAYS yours!

So, be aware of your thoughts. Be mindful of how your thoughts are shaping your experiences, and choose the thoughts that will nurture you on your path.

Enjoy your day, and be careful what you wish for!!

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Friday, September 03, 2010

Believe In Yourself

Your Self-belief Will See You Through Till The End

This is not a full-fledged article from me this time; it is a brief statement of sign-off from me from the self-development blog.

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It has been almost four years since I accepted WCCL Network's request to write for this blog. It was a wonderful journey. Over this period, the blog had come to acquire a voice of its own, dwelling as it did on myriad issues that we face while on this planet earth, with what I would like to think was a positive, mature approach. It was a great feeling to connect with fellow souls who are as interested in development of the self as I am. That I had succeeded to some extent in making a difference could be discerned from the quality of interaction I had with quite a few of the readers.

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The time has now come to move on. This September 2010, I am handing over the reins of the authorship of this blog back to the WCCL team. This will allow me to channelize energies in other endeavors. Readers may continue to be in touch with me through my blog here: Quest for Nirvana.

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My parting note: Believe In Yourself. Your self-belief will see you through till the end.

- Sanjay Agrawal
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Thursday, September 02, 2010

Change Your Life ... One Step at a Time

Here's a question for you!

What are you doing today to change your life for the better?

Chances are you'll either have an impossible list or just don't know where to start. Don't worry, this is perfectly normal.

You see, when we think about changing life for the better, we're often overwhelmed by what we see as an enormous task. We are daunted by the thought of what's involved to move out of comfort zones (or not so comfortable zones) required to change life for the better and, as a result, do nothing. After all, doesn't change require lots of energy, time, commitment, and hard work?

Well, it all depends upon the perspective you choose!

Many people fail to change their life for the better because they create obstacles for themselves.

They adopt the belief that change will be difficult, challenging, and intensive. They start finding excuses, such as not having enough time, money, expertise, confidence, support, and so on. Before you know it, they talk themselves out of making the changes they really want.

Don't let this happen to you! It might have been the approach you took yesterday, but not today.

You see, today, you can choose new, positive beliefs! Say, `I can change my life for the better, and I'm starting right now.'

Make this your affirmation. Say it out loud. Believe it!

Now, choose one thing you can do today to begin the journey that will change your life. Make it simple.

For example, find a book or course that offers the guidance you need. Create a to-do list or schedule an appointment with an expert.

Choose just one small task that will allow you to take the first step of your journey to a better life, and just do it!

Tomorrow, take another step, and then another.

Creating a better life is really a journey of taking many steps. When you focus on each step, you break down a seemingly impossible goal into doable tasks. Before you know it, you'll achieve what you've set out to do.

Just remember, though, making a better life for yourself begins with your beliefs.

So, do you believe you can?

Make that a YES, YES, YES!

Have a truly amazing day!

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Wednesday, September 01, 2010

Change Your Life ... One Step at a Time

Here's a question for you!

What are you doing today to change your life for the better?

Chances are you'll either have an impossible list or just don't know where to start. Don't worry, this is perfectly normal.



You see, when we think about changing life for the better, we're often overwhelmed by what we see as an enormous task. We are daunted by the thought of what's involved to move out of comfort zones (or not so comfortable zones) required to change life for the better and, as a result, do nothing. After all, doesn't change require lots of energy, time, commitment, and hard work?

Well, it all depends upon the perspective you choose!

Many people fail to change their life for the better because they create obstacles for themselves.

They adopt the belief that change will be difficult, challenging, and intensive. They start finding excuses, such as not having enough time, money, expertise, confidence, support, and so on. Before you know it, they talk themselves out of making the changes they really want.

Don't let this happen to you! It might have been the approach you took yesterday, but not today.

You see, today, you can choose new, positive beliefs! Say, `I can change my life for the better, and I'm starting right now.'

Make this your affirmation. Say it out loud. Believe it!

Now, choose one thing you can do today to begin the journey that will change your life. Make it simple.

For example, find a book or course that offers the guidance you need. Create a to-do list or schedule an appointment with an expert.

Choose just one small task that will allow you to take the first step of your journey to a better life, and just do it!

Tomorrow, take another step, and then another.



Creating a better life is really a journey of taking many steps. When you focus on each step, you break down a seemingly impossible goal into doable tasks. Before you know it, you'll achieve what you've set out to do.

Just remember, though, making a better life for yourself begins with your beliefs.

So, do you believe you can?

Make that a YES, YES, YES!

Have a truly amazing day!
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Committing Suicide At A Young Age

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Don't Make Suicide An Option For The Child

Nobody knows yet, least of all the mother and the elder sister, as to why young, 14-year-old ninth grader Girish jumped on the railway track in time for a running train to crush his head. His body was found the next day, mutilated, parts eaten by stray dogs. (Here is the story as it has unfolded so far: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Student-ends-life-on-rail-tracks/articleshow/6470917.cms.)

Photo of J Girish, the boy who committed suicide in Bangalore recently_*

* Photo of J Girish, the boy who committed suicide in Bangalore recently.

From all accounts, the child was a good student who had to attend extra tuitions to cope with the subjects of math and science. The respective subject teachers had conducted class tests a couple of weeks ago, and he had failed in both the subjects. The day he committed suicide also happened to be the day when the next test was scheduled.

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Girish was the younger of the two-sibling family. His sister is just a couple of years older. They lost their father about ten years ago. The family has been getting by from the tailoring contract that the mother and sole breadwinner has with a garment manufacturing company. The tensions of running a family on low budget all these years, without the shoulder and support of the intimate partner, coupled with the demands of growing, teenage children, must have been too much for the mother to bear. Add to this the perceived poor performance of the son, which in fact led to the added burden of the extra tuition costs. It would not be out of place for the mother to be harsh to the child, chiding him and exhorting him to improve performance. In a society that lays a lot of importance to academic performance, failures in tests are a matter of shame and guilt. So was Girish a victim of excessive parental pressure? Was suicide Girish's way of telling his mom that he was finding the expectation of the mother from him in excelling in subjects that he does not like, just too much? That he knew, in the core of his heart, that he will flunk the next test too, tuition or no tuition? And suicide was the only option available to him in order to escape the guilt of not being able to meet the expectations?

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We are often quite thoughtless about the quality of interaction we have with the members of our family; because we take them for granted. Well, they are always there, always around. You do not have to be on your guard all the time with them, do you? And if you have to be on your guard all the time, and that too in the informal confines of your home, then pray tell what happens to the closeness and the intimacy and the bonding? While we all need the informal banality and the banter and the bonhomie that closeness in relationships provides, the fact that the family members are "always there" does not really give us an unlimited license to project our anxieties and stresses and pressures and irritations onto them. Especially the family members, who are vulnerable and helpless, such as the children. It is not uncommon for a parent to barge into the house after a very tough day in the office, and immediately start abusing and painting black-and-blue the one object in the house which can bear the brunt of all their pent-up frustration and anger without retaliating back: the child. Do it continuously, and the child either grows to become a delinquent at the worst, or an emotionally scarred, permanently unhappy human being at the least. Or, as in the case of Girish, the child will not wait to grow up, it will find deliverance in suicide.

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Do go easy on the child. You did not give birth to the children so that they serve as your punching bag. Don't treat the child like a punching bag to vent the frustrations and problems in your life. There are better ways to handle your problems.

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[Children always have their eyes and ears open to what is going on in the household. If they do not understand fully what is going on, they try to make sense of it using their limited knowledge and abundant imagination. And even if they are short on facts and data, they are experts in the intuition department, and can immediately and quite easily distinguish between the "good" and the "not-so-good" vibes floating in the air. As this article discusses, the children absorb these vibes without discrimination: "Children are Like Sponge".]

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