Tuesday, October 02, 2007


Symbol of the sexes


It is one of the most important gifts of pleasure that nature has given to man. The gift of enjoying the surge of chemicals that ripples through the entire body before, during and after coitus.

Coition of a Hemisected Man and Woman, Image by Leonardo da Vinci

The entire body, the brain, and the soul - the entity in its entirety is involved in the act. Time stands momentarily still for this individual, while his nervous system is stretched to its fullest, right from the brain through the spinal chord to the very last neuron touching the remotest pore. It is so stretched to give his entire persona the highest celebration of his existence, that in those moments, nothing else matters. And the highest point in celebrating the conjugation is the ejaculation of the seminal fluid. The climax. After which, the refractory period takes over.

UCSB Site - Sexual response diagram

And yet, for a lot of men, the refractory period comes even before the body and the brain and the soul have reached their highest point of pleasure. The seminal vesicles appear to be too eager to give forth their treasure horde. The peristaltic contractions of the muscles underlying the seminal ducts are involuntary in these men. There is absolutely no control that they can exert on them. The net result is that after the volume of fluid has squirted out, they lie on their side, spent, dejected, full of self-hatred, and the partner turning around, adjusting her clothes and preparing to sleep, yet another session of love having ended prematurely.

MSN image

Do such men finish their meals in a hurry? Are they usually the first to finish the food in their plate? Are these the kind who place too much demands on themselves in terms of performance, in whichever field they are in? Do such men carry too much stress on their shoulders, all the time? Do they fret and fume when the queue is too long, when the signal turns red as the junction nears, when the waitress takes too long to serve, when the wife takes too long to get dressed, when the promotion is delayed...

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Unless there are genetic factors involved, I would place the blame of PE squarely at the doorstep of the man's mental makeup. Unless there is some biological deformity in his system, the core of his active-sexual existence revolves round the performance of those tiny, 10-cm long seminal vesicles that lie curled up, and the epididymis - both of which produce different components of the fluid. And these organs and all the organ systems that make up his sexual structure are under the direct influence of the thought processes that the man is all the time undergoing during his waking and dreaming hours.

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So how do you change the thought processes? How do you wake up to appreciate the rising sun, even if for a brief moment? How do you enjoy the little things that happen around you throughout the day? How do you enjoy every bite of your meal, as if it is the first time you are eating it, and experience the entire process - the way your teeth dig into the piece, the way your tongue rolls it around different parts of the buccal cavity, and finally as it slides down your esophagus to land in your stomach? How do you learn to not give a damn - that stress and that queue and the red signal and the delay in serving and the delay in dressing and the delay in promotion...?

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In the making of your personality, every thought counts and matters, you see. It is how you define yourself that decides how well you are going to enjoy sex - the fruit of your carnal being.

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Learning to live in the present moment. Enjoying life to the fullest.

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Shifting one's thought processes from one level to another level requires being vigilant all the time to what one is thinking. The moment you detect your thoughts going back to the same old level, politely but firmly shift to the new one. You can aid this process by listening to pre-recorded auto-suggestions. I haven't tried this particular CD, but you could try it if you have this particular issue of PE: http://www.short10.com/?c=sdb_sexhypno_pe. Costs USD 12.95 for a download, USD 25.95 if you want the CD.

Try this auto-suggestion method. Beats any day taking medicines!

PE Box

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